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If You want to be better with women turn off the tv, get off the couch, unplug your computer and go out to your nearest club/bar.

If you would like more women in your life, stop reading theory online and discussing it with your other 10 introverted buddies determining whether it actually works or not.

If you want to be liked by more women stop trying to dismiss advice given to you by those who have been in the trenches and had the experience.

If You apply it, it does work, just because your a theoretical psychologist with a phd in social psychology doesn’t mean shit, theories are all well and good but they won’t get you laid.

Less Excuses, More Action.

You’ll never get better sitting around at home reading.

You can’t learn to ride a bike by reading a book.

You’ll learn more from a night of clubbing than a month of reading info online.

The Field is King!

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Why can we never get what we want? I mean it’s just sitting there in front of us, you can pretty much be anything you want… to be buff you go to the gym, to get a girlfriend you just talk to girls, to get money you just work hard (and maybe a bit smart). But for some reason you’d much rather just be watching TV while wafting down packet after packet of corn chips.

Why does this happen? Why is it that we can never see the straight path through the fog? Why do we get so confused over some things other people find so easy to do? It’s just 2 primal instincts we as humans stupidly do due to carrying around an emotional system that’s 50,000 years out of date.

The first is the need for everything NOW. The second is “silver bullet syndrome”, the be all and end all of human nature: feeling we all deserve something for nothing, a magic pill that will cure all our problems without any effort.

Why are we driven by these stupid emotions?

50,000 years ago it was a bad idea to wear ourselves out, for then if we suddenly got sprung on by a sneaky lion looking at us and seeing a giant pork chop we wouldn’t be able to defend ourselves. Thus the human body decided it would be a good idea to create resistance to expending lots of energy getting things done, so we don’t get eaten by lions as much.

This is exactly the reason why it’s so damn hard to just start talking to strangers and women you don’t know. 50,000 years ago if you were to randomly talk to women in the tribe, and the tribal leader didn’t like it, you die. He’ll probably bash you in the head with a rock until you resemble a bloody pulp, then feed you to the lions (sure makes the rejections these days seem pretty bland by comparison)
Your emotions were created 50,000 years ago to save you from lions and crazy cavemen, do you really want to trust them? Of course not!

These emotions are holding you back from your true awesome self man! Once you start Ignoring them and push yourself past them you will take on a whole new level of superiority (sounds cool eh?). No longer are you going to be the underdog taking crap from your friends for not being able to talk to women, and no longer will you be afraid of that scary scary bench-press (just imagine it’s a lion, will make it much easier to tame).

The Secret other Personal Development *Gurus* are Hiding:

There’s a scary secret in the personal development community, average people will probably never discover it, because if they do, half the *gurus* would be out of business:

“Most personal development teachers are trying to remove these bad emotions, help you get over them to lead a more successful life. But this honestly isn’t what’s needed; these emotions pretty much NEVER go away, yes NEVER! Often these personal development coaches haven’t even done what they are preaching themselves, and just hoping that by writing about it they can get over their fear and make a little money on the side.”

For gurus, this is cool, because they know that they can’t actually remove the emotions, and they also know that as long as they keep teaching how to in different ways, people will have a little success. Then they keep buying their books hoping to get more and more success, when they didn’t even need the motivation anyway.

Even 2 Years on I STILL feel fear when going to talk to that next woman, and I’ve talked to well over 600-700 women. This isn’t just me either, I’ve talked with some of the most successful pick up artists and IN THE WORLD and all these guys STILL feel anxiety when first approaching a girl they are interested in.

You DO NOT need to get rid of this fear, instead use it to fuel you to action, If you actually start to feel these bad emotions (and you will, believe me), it means you are growing and becoming a better more successful person, and we all want that.

The act of courage isn’t to not have fear, the biggest and best guys in every field have fear and horrible emotions going haywire when they do what they do. The difference between them and the common chode is that they push through this fear with sheer resolve and courage. With this kick ass level of courage they get stronger, faster, better with women and richer than ever.

I’ve gone through this pain myself, pushing myself to go to the gym, go and talk to that girl, do that extra little bit of business work even though every single emotion in my body is telling me to get the hell away from it and start doing more brain-dead activities, like watching TV.

It is incredibly hard in the beginning yes, but it does get easier! No the negative emotions don’t go away, they are going to stick around till you’re rolling in your grave. Them not going away would be horrible anyway, as everyone has the tendency to un-appreciate things that are easy to acquire, the gratification just isn’t there. Once you do what you really want to over and over and over (ad continuum) for at least 4 weeks you just develop the habit. The Habit is really really cool, because once you get it, you just go on autopilot and fly baby! It almost feels like the emotions don’t even matter anymore, because you just do it anyway.

So am I just talking crap or have I really done this myself?

I’ve been going to the gym for 2 years now to bulk up (I was quite a skinny guy 2 years ago, being 5’8” (173cm) and weighing just 110lb (50kg). I used to go to the gym about 3 times a week, sometimes 4, sometimes only 2 and really worked it around my (what I thought was hectic) schedule. I also crap all, but more than the average person. In that time I noticed I was growing slightly, I got a bit bigger, but overall in about 20 months I gained 26lb or 12KG (which is kind of cool, but still nowhere near good enough).

Fast forward to this year: I’m gym every day for an hour and eat more than ever (including a whole of 4 milkshakes a day…) I’ve now had 5 months of this consistent everyday effort of going even when I didn’t want to (and my body would have much rather me broken my arm then go to the gym). In those 4 months I gained another 14KG and put on a hell of a lot of muscle.

I know what you’re thinking: “Oh My God, 4 months of forcing yourself to go every single day! That’s like torture!” OH IT WAS! Nah kidding. In the beginning I thought exactly the same thing, that it would be like pushing a freight train up a hill. Not True! I noticed after just 1 month of going every single day my brain started to realize that I was dead serious, I wasn’t giving this up. So my brain helped me out, some days I would go “nup not going today” and my brain said back to me “oh yes you are bitch, you’re going to feel so much pain you can’t move!”, and my body would like auto-walk itself to the gym at which point I’d have to do the weights. (Ok maybe an exaggeration but it honestly did feel like autopilot mode).

It’s really really cool when this starts to happen because you don’t need to push yourself much anymore, you just go, you don’t even need to think about it, and you get the results you deserve.
So how does this apply to Women? So many guys fail with women simply because they are not applying themselves consistently. Talking to women once or twice a week is exactly the same as going to the gym once or twice a week, you can get somewhere (very very slowly) but the improvements will only be 10% of the rate you could be going at if only you started talking to people every day.

Thus to greatly accelerate any results you are having, Be Religiously Consistant! By going to the gym and going all out 2-3 days a week, then doing crap all for the other 4-5 days in the week (eating junk, sitting around on the couch eating cheezos) you are only driving yourself backwards. That extra effort you just put in on those gym days was just completely destroyed by being a complete sloth. Don’t do what the majority do because it’s easier, you’re only going to get what the majority of people get, an expensive gym membership with nothing to show for it.

Same goes for women. Don’t feel like talking to that cute girl on the train? Too bad! Do it anyway! In fact I’ll challenge you, whenever you talk to a girl on the train/bus/clubbing etc, email me, and I’ll match it, It’ll be like a little competition (perhaps I may give you a prize or two if you put in extra effort )

Until Next Time,

Have Fun!

– Solace

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Your ego is both inspiring and full of deceit, on the surface it appears to be helping you, it gives you small boosts of gratification when you succeed and that helps keep you going, however on the flip side it is also one of the biggest hindrances you will face in life. You see your ego just wants you to be safe, to have fun and to be the best, however what it doesn’t realize is that failure can be a good thing. In fact, your ego hates failure, it loathes nothing more, and this is where most people go wrong in their career, health and relationships.

Your ego hates failure so much that it puts up protective barriers against it, it makes you feel bad when you aren’t the best looking, smartest, most charming guy around. It is the reason why fat people hate going to the gym, often the fear of other people judging them and their ego being damaged because of that holds them back from going. It is also the reason many weightlifters lift heavier weights than they should, they get an ego boost from these bigger weights and feel good because of it, even if they are damaging their body when they can’t lift them with the right form.

Consequently this also applies to attracting women, your ego doesn’t like you failing, being rejected or making a fool of yourself, so you play it safe, you do safe things that nobody around will see or notice, and you try to blend in with all the other chodes picking up women. You Never rise above the rest because your ego tells you public humiliation is bad.

To separate yourself from your ego is a liberating experience, you can freely do what you like without worrying about prejudice, about others judging what you do, about girls or guys thinking bad about you for screwing up. In fact, if you dump your ego entirely you will see massive gains in every area of life, for you will no longer be trying to pick up women to prove to your friends how much of a cool dude you are, but rather talking to women to give them a fun night out and amuse yourself, not impress others.

So how do you go about removing this ego? We’ll for a start over the next week keep listening to your thoughts, if you catch yourself thinking about whether someone else likes you or not stop! Just cut that thought out and attempt to never think it again. If you catch yourself comparing yourself to others then stop! don’t ever think like that, and if you ever think of doing something then think “no maybe x will think I’m stupid”, ignore that thought and do it anyway.

Separating yourself from your ego means separating yourself from comparisons with others, don’t compare how many girls you’ve had/muscle size/your salary to other guys, don’t care about what others think of you, and especially don’t stop doing what you want to do because someone else may not like it.

It’s hard because we’ve been brought up a society that values comparisons, we have charts and graphs showing school performances, we have IQ tests, we have salaries for various jobs and comparisons between multiple positions. In fact most of many people’s existences is based around comparing themselves to others and only feeling good when they are better than other people. If you ever feel good because you’re better at something than someone else, stop it! Everyone always has someone better and worse than them, and comparing yourself to others will only deter you from your real goals.

Set goals for yourself, and don’t build them upon what others have done Every person is unique and has their own take on life. Do what you want to do, if getting to 60KG from 50KG is your goal, awesome, that’s a great goal, if your goal is to be bigger than the kid down the road its not so great. Others can still serve as inspiration of course (I know I want to be as big as Arnie someday), but don’t feel let down if you’re not there yet, just keep going, working on that goal and continue getting there. Negative emotions from not bulking up or loosing fat fast enough will only deter you from what you really want and when you hit a plateau your ego will probably put you off all-together.

Your ego can keep you going when the going is easy, but that’s all it will do. For when you hit a stale point your ego will feel the drain from lack of success and cause you to give up hope, even if you are only 10% away from your goal. When the going gets tough you need to learn to put your ego aside and be able to tap into your intelligence, which will help you get over those speed-bumps in life and be the man you really want to be.

Your ego is based on emotions, not logic, hence why it is so hard to control. But you will realize over time that it becomes easier and easier the more you ignore it when it’s holding you back and start using your logic and intelligence instead. The question is, do you want instant ego satisfying gratification, or to endure a slight bit of ego pain for huge lifelong improvements?
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What if all these self help motivation books really weren’t needed, and you could accomplish anything you desire with absolutely not motivation in life? How would that make you feel? It would truly be inspiring, evolving and allow us all to get where we want to go in life without the need for 21 million motivational books to get us there. This is all entirely possible and devilishly simple, and there only 3 criteria you must meet:

1) You are not an animal
2) You have a logical component to your brain
3) You must have something you desire and want.

Chances are if you can read this article, your already set.

The key to this system of setting and achieving your goals is not that you need to be motivated towards achieving a goal. Like seriously, who is motivated to go to the gym naturally!? probably about 1% of the population at the most. The key is that you must logically know you want to achieve the goal (its something you actually desire in life, and if the work wasn’t hard you would always be working towards it).

So how do we do this? We do it by establishing habits. A Habit is a small easy task that can be repeated over and over and over to accomplish something big. Like writing 1000 words can be a habit, if you do perform that habit over 100 times you can write a 100,000 word book with a minimum of effort. The key is to not think into the future but just think of the now, just focus on the 1000 words for today and get them done, you don’t even need to think about the final product, focus on the now and the rest will take care of itself.

The first step is to grasp exactly what your major task/goal requires, lets take the previous example of writing a book. Writing a book from start to finish requires a bit of planning, and about 100,000 words of writing (of course there are other steps, but these steps like finding a publisher are generally things you WANT to do, not things you HAVE to do). Now we take those tasks and break them down into 1 hour blocks that are easily completable and very simple. For the first week you may spend each day just planning the book. Every day for one hour you need to sit down and write out a skeleton outline for a chapter or two, eventually you will have a basic outline of the book. Next up comes the writing, simply take all your words you need to write, split them up into chunks that you can easily complete in an hour (I aim for 30 minutes because often it takes longer than expected) and do it.

So now you have your chunks you need to accomplish, simply do them, set aside the same block of time and work in the same spot every single day and get your small chunk done for that day. If you have more time and feel like working you can continue doing more than expected but at least get the minimum done. Now oftentimes (especially after about the first week or so) you will feel completely emotionally drained and feel you have absolutely no motivation to continue working. Its at this point you need to switch off your emotions responses and simply go on autopilot, just ignore your emotions screaming out and do it no matter what, you’ll be so thankful you did in the end. At about the 30 day mark if you continue with these habits you’ll realize you actually start to feel off if you don’t perform your task for the day. This is at the point where the habit has become ingrained and from here on in its all downhill to getting whatever it is you desire.

The biggest key to remember is to do it whether your sick, tired, depressed whatever, just do it. No matter how you feel or how the weather is (it’s never perfect) just do it.

It may take you many years to get to your goal but if you stick with this pattern and never give up YOU WILL GET THERE. Say you want to lose 50 pounds, by itself that is a huge goal that seems like its going to need massive changes to be accomplished, but honestly in the real world it doesn’t. The main reason it seems to take so long is simply that those who attempt it don’t have a consistent routine, they may got 3 times a week for 3 weeks then give up and not go to the gym again for 2 months, eliminating all that hard work they performed. Simply establish a habit of going to the gym every day for an hour no matter how you feel, whether your tired, got a headache, exhausted whatever just go there and do exercise for 30 min. If you do this you don’t even need to monitor your weight, simply be safe in the knowledge that if you are going 30 minutes each day and slowly doing more and more exercise every time (as you get fitter) the fat will simply melt away.

This also works really well even doing something not immediately measurable like learning how to be better with women. For this case you don’t need to achieve a certain amount of words or calories per day, but simply put in the time. Being naturally good with women may seem like a mere illusion its so far away, but all it takes is a habit of going out and talking to women for a little bit each and every day, in no time you will discover you are now much much better with women and being in social situations in general than ever before. Even if your motivation completely dies out and you are not compelled at all to go out (although logically you still want to be better with women it I hope), just do that habit and go out for a little bit each day (or just Friday/Saturday nights) and approach at least 5 different groups of women (don’t go out and stand in the corner the entire night or you will accomplish nothing). When your doing that little bit each and every day Its impossible to not get there and the only way you can possibly fail is if you give up. It may take you 2 years, 4 years, or even 10 years to get to a level you want to be at where your comfortable in social situations, but know that the more you put in the more you get out and by just having these little habits your going to be 100x better than the average guys sitting around playing ps2 alone on Friday and Saturday nights.

So do it right now, figure out at least one thing you want to accomplish in your life, break it down and start working on those chunks day by day, who cares if its going to take you 5 years, if you don’t do this its most likely going to take you 25 years, or you may never do it. Just break the task down into little parts, and start going through them, bit by bit by bit, soon you’ll have your finished product and it will all seem way too easy.

Have Fun,

– Solace

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Do you care about what other people think of you? Are you concerned that some people don’t like you? Do you hang on to what other people say, hoping that they might say something good about you and dreading if they say something bad about you? Thinking in this mindset is holding you back in more ways than you can imagine.

This self concious thinking is a fairly common problem with just about everyone. In a social society, other people’s thoughts are important. Thinking about what other people think of you has many benefits: you won’t tread on anyone’s toes or get on their bad sides, you can tell whether they like you or don’t like you and calibrate accordingly, and you can tell when you are welcome or not welcome in a group. However, this can be something that really harms your game if other people’s opinions of you becomes a major factor in how you behave.

Our ability to imagine what other people’s mind states or thoughts are is a natural ability which psychologists have termed, ‘Theory of Mind’. ToM is a basic ability in us to anticipate what other people’s thoughts are, as other people obviously think differently to us. Without knowing or having an idea of what other people are thinking about, social interactions can turn awkward – for example, if you weren’t part of a social group who’s norms frowned upon discussion of deodorant, and you discussed deodorant, then this may cause tension in the group.

ToM develops very early in life. The ability starts appearing around the age of 3. A simple task to test the ToM is to show a toddler a series of events or a scenario: In the scenario, person A has a box of lollies. He replaces the lollies with pencils (the toddler sees all of this). Then person A leaves the box in the room and person B enters. The toddler is asked what person B thinks is inside the box. Without ToM, the toddler would assume that person B thought exactly the same thing as them: that the box contained pencils, even though person B would not have known that person A replaced the lollies with pencils. After the development of ToM, the toddler is able to ‘figure out’ that person B doesn’t know about the shifty switch and thus answers the question correctly.

The condition in which ToM is impaired in a person is called Autism, or the ‘high functioning’ version of it, Asperger’s syndrome. ToM never develops in these people (though they may learn logical routes/heuristics to figure out basic rules). Social interaction is incredibly difficult for these people and you should be glad that you were born with a working ToM.

Many people let their capacity to estimate what other people think of them overpower their thoughts. They are constantly wondering if the other people like them, whether what they say is going to have an effect on what the person thinks of them, or whether they should take a risk and make a move, or just hope that everything goes well. In fact, they’re thinking about what others think of them so much that their mental capacities for language are used up and they have nothing to say.

They start really analysing the situation, using their incredible capacity of ToM to bring up a million different ways in which people might react negatively to their approach or their words. The focus of their thoughts is in finding ways in which they might be rejected and as a result, they are less inclined to approach or push the line.

This is also related to the amount of emotional investment in which they put into what other people think of them. Obviously, the more emotional investment there is into what other people think of you, the more it matters. This is the first thing that needs to be changed. Why put so much emotional investment in what other people think? Especially if it’s just someone you just met.

Emotional investment into the outcome of the interaction is also something that will determine whether you watch your words or not. When you’re invested into whether you get the girl’s number/kiss her/take her home, you’re guarding your words so that nothing wrong comes out. In the process of this, you’re restricting yourself: being free and putting your personality on the line is incredibly attractive to a girl and you’re stopping yourself from really expressing yourself.

When you remove emotional investment from the interaction, you can start to use your ToM effectively. You can calibrate to the situation and determine what the best possible routes and tactics to take are. Your intuitive abilities to tell you when to take the interaction to the next level will be honed into great weapons of escalation. Taking the emotional investment from the interaction also has another benefit of shifting the focus of the interaction into a ‘building your skills’ mindset. Instead of focusing on rejection (I’m doing my best so that this girl will like me), you’re focused on your skills (I’ll test this out, if it doesn’t work then I’ll fix it).

Use your ToM so that it is beneficial to your game. Remove your emotional investments from the interaction: you’re working on your skill set and you’re going to make mistakes. Your ability to use ToM is a tool that can help you succeed, and it shouldn’t be a handicap that takes over your mind

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One of the most important part of dealing with women and becoming the best person you can be is developing your “inner game”. Inner game is encompasses a wide variety of things: your mindsets, how you react to think, thought processes, to name a few. You will probably read a lot of things written by other experienced pimp soldiers trying to explain to you what their current mindsets are and what goes through their heads but unless you have experience with the topic, you probably will have a difficult time trying to understand what the writer is going on about.

So you read all this material. Be unreactive. Girls are plentiful. Be your core, your self and don’t give a damn what anyone else thinks of you. You feel good because you think after you’ve read that material that you’ve developed good inner game and nothing can shake your solid base. Then one girl doesn’t open well. Another girl gives you a death stare as you approach. If you’re strong enough, you continue on to your third or fourth approach. All with the same results. You start crumbling inside. What happened? You cry to yourself, “I thought my inner game was strong enough for this!”.

Inner game isn’t something that you can magic up out of thin air, or from hours of reading. It isn’t a logical entity that you can just read about and develop. The concepts of inner game were developed from people who had experience with women and life in general. They had approached and dealt with so many women that an abundance mentality is cemented in their minds. So many people had rejected their approaches already that they just don’t care what other people think of them. These concepts were borne through people with vast amounts of experience and passed down to people without the experience, so that they could benefit from other’s work.

However, to know what these concepts really mean, you need an emotional understanding of the concepts, and this is gained from hours and hours of field experience. When you first start approaching women (after spending hours studying material), you logically understand that approaching women is really nothing and that you’re not going to die, but your emotional circuitry kicks and screams at you to not approach because you might get hurt. You’re strong and you approach anyway, and after a few approaches your emotional brain ‘catches up’ to your logic and starts realising that approaching won’t hurt you. After a while, you fully understand the inner game concept that approaching is easy. This goes with every other concept. This is the way you start to really understand things.

If you want to build your muscles, you have to exercise and push them to their limits. Socialising, inner strength and all of the concepts discussed regarding women, they’re all written there for you to get started. But to get really good and to really understand the material, you need to get out and experience it. Take a risk and approach that woman. Lead her around confidently and take your rejections in stride. Every rejection gets you closer to your goal. Every rejection makes you stronger and more calibrated. With every rejection, you learn what not to do and your social skills improve.

See you on the field,

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Something I’ve come to terms with over my life is that I (and I know many other humans, especially girls) am a highly emotional creature. I’ve realized this when reading an article from a good friend, he was discussing how often most people stick with one relationship even if they don’t like it that much and keep it going till it dies because they feel fearful of going out and just don’t feel right meeting new people and working on their dating skills. So they stick around till it dies out, then about 2 days to a month after the breakup they start to feel a sense of loss or an insatiable sex drive and start getting emotional, their emotions are telling them to go out and meet new people. So they go out a few nights, meet one girl/guy then decide to settle down again because they don’t feel this emotional need anymore… and so the cycle continues.

This is what is known as being reactive rather than proactive and is often one of many people’s fatal flaws. Being reactive to events is where you feel lacking in some area of your life and your emotions (not your logic) tell you to fix it, of course you backwards rationalise this with logic so it all makes sense in your mind. All too often you start something such as going to the gym, get to a point where your ok with how your look but not the best you could be and your emotions fade away simply because your ok now and you don’t NEED to put in any more work, so you don’t, and you just sit at that weight. Then a few months down the track after giving up on the gym the weight begins to slip back on again, you gain a few KG and start feeling bad about yourself, so you go to the gym again, get to an ok level, and then rest, repeating the cycle. This is taking a reactive approach to life and it generally involves moving away from the bad but never pushing your boundaries to go further than above average, and in turn not accomplishing what you’d really like to accomplish.

Being proactive on the other hand is taking a more logical route to life. It involves planning ahead and sticking to that plan no matter what happens, whether you feel depressed, sick or tired, whether the rain is rain, hail or snow you will stick with that plan. Pro-activeness is a rare quality found in very few people (because it is a logical process we haven’t evolved into this higher state of being yet) and it is one of the things that everyone who is successful in any endeavour of life has acquired. Attaining Pro-activeness is not an easy task (as the reason why 99% of people are reactive, to varying degrees) and requires much time and dedication to acquire.

Not all hope is lost however, for it can be done quite simply with the use of self discipline, goal setting and taking the reigns of your logic in order to control your emotions. One of the first steps is to try doing easy tasks and disciplining yourself to do them no matter what happens, whether you feel tired, moody, upset, anything, you still do those tasks. One such easy task that most should be able to accomplish is getting out of bed and showering every morning. Believe it or not this does require self discipline and being able to do it means you are somewhat proactive, congratulations . Once this is accomplished the next task should be something bigger, try getting out of bed as soon as the alarm goes off every morning and set it for an early-ish time (4pm doesn’t count). Once you’ve accomplished this you can move onto bigger and better goals involving more than just a morning start, perhaps you’d like to write a book, do stand-up comedy, or craft the perfect body it’s all easily possible with self-discipline and being proactive.

The key is not to try and start too big, your proactive muscles are just like your physical muscles, trying to organise your entire day to doing highly productive tasks and never slipping when you can’t even get out of bed before midday is akin to going to the gym and stacking 200kg on the bench-press, your not going to get anywhere and will just cause yourself to feel bad if you don’t accomplish these tasks. Instead start small and build your proactive muscles, keep going with these small tasks and once you’ve accomplished them move onto something bigger and more productive. In no time at all you’ll find yourself having more free time (because you did what you needed to do when you said you would rather than procrastinating half the day), you’ll be better off than ever before (accomplishing what you really want to accomplish). You’ll genuinely feel happier and better about life, as your no longer a slave to your emotions and you can do what you want, when you want and get it done with ease.

Use your logic rather than your emotions when making decisions and you’ll find yourself accomplishing all that you’ve ever dreamed of. Plan ahead and set goals then stick to them, but don’t beat yourself up if you don’t achieve them, simply take smaller baby steps towards your goal rather than trying to tackle it all at once. Finally work your proactive self discipline muscles each and every day and you’ll find yourself going places you’ve never ever dreamed of going before.

Have fun,

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