Lets Inspire

Over the past few months I’ve taken a break from Lets Inspire focusing on other business activities. I’ve also thrown myself into Seduction / Pick Up more intense than ever before and realized: I don’t want to write
the normal newbie dating info anymore.

Lets Inspire to me means inspired growth, constant improvement and continual evolution of ourselves in dating, personal development and life. Not about quick rewrites of generic worthless content to appeal to the lowest common demoninator.

I no longer want to write purely from a business perspective, as writing rehashed junk info to make a quick buck just doesn’t have any appeal to me. If that scares some newbies away who just want the basics of pickup, so be it, there are thousands of others sources to get basic dating info from. From now on I’m going to pursue the cutting edge of pickup, the latest theories, techniques and info to help take your game further than ever before and make you the most fun, attractive guy possible, the kind of guy every woman dreams of being with.

I aim to always be learning and as I learn new things give this information to you to learn from, apply and help refine, we’ll work together to make ourselves the best we can be. I’m not going to be holding anything back and giving out everything I learn and come across as it happens.

I See soo much potential for growth in the pickup community! There is still so much to learn and explore. The problem is 95% of teachers are just repeating what others have said to make a few quick sales, and as such we’re evolving at a much slower pace than we could be.

Lets Inspire is about taking charge and pathing the way to the discovery and creationg of new strategies, theories and techniques no one has yet thought of or worked with. Lets Inspire won’t be about repeating what others have said before but forging new ground, creating and experimenting with up to the second new technologies.

It will also be a place where the best of the best come to hang out and throw ideas out there to work with and build upon. I see a bright future ahead for the pickup community, there may be many haters, many guys and girls who think you should just be how you’ve always been and never grow to be a better person, but I’m 100% committed to being the best man I can be and constantly pushing myself to new heights. If you want to stagnate and live a *normal* life you’ll have to seek help elsewhere.

The one thing to remember is there is always room for improvement, you should always be evolving and changing. Just like some of the best guys out there (I’ll be posting a link to all the best Pickup resources in hte coming days) every few months I’ll be pulling my game apart and rebuilding it from scratch to take it to the next level.

It’s very crushing to the ego to be doing this, throwing away everything you’ve worked for and rebuilding from scratch. But in the constant pursuit of growth it is neccessary and by leaving your ego at the door you’re going to get a lot more out of Lets Inspire than anyone else.

I present this information to you as a student of pickup, not as your teacher or guru, for I find when one labels themself as a guru it becomes a case of “I’ve finished growing so I’m going to stop learning and just teach everything I know over and over”. With the majority of gurus or teachers I see they never evolve their game, they get so wrapped up forming an identity around their teachings that they never move on even when there are better, more practical, more hard hitting powerful techniques being created all around them.

Lets Inspire is about inspiring guys to be the best they can be and giving them the tools and information they need to always be improving their game. It’s about Deep, Truthful, Powerful growth as a PUA, a Friend and a fellow Human Being.

Most of all, I believe Pickup should always be coming from a point of love and giving, wanting to be the man every girl desires, never trying to be manipulative or selfish in your desires. Thus everything I write will be coming from a place of love and being win win for both you and every girl that comes into your life.

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You’re a polite individual. You say please and thank you, and treat people with decency and respect. However, for some reason this does not seem to have a positive influence on your social life – in fact, quite the opposite. You still feel awkward around your peers, tongue tied where others speak freely in social situations, and find the girls of your dreams walking straight past you, into the arms of the biggest jerk in the world.

Don’t worry. You’re not alone in your confusion. The difficulty you’re having comes from a misconception in what constitutes politeness itself.

Polite is not just what we generally accept it to be. There are, in fact, two forms of politeness.

The first is demonstrated in this exchange:

“Brenton, could you please pass me the salt?”
“Here you are”
“Thank you very much”
“You’re welcome”

This exchange demonstrates the first type of politeness. Being polite by following socially appropriate conventions of what is generally understood as ‘politeness’. It is often referred to as Positive Politeness. The mistake that so many make is thinking that this is the only legitimate type of politeness. This though, is a mistake. Observe the following exchange:

“Oi, chuck us the salt”
“Get it yourself you lazy bastard”
“Piss off, chuck us the salt”
“No. Get some exercise and grab it.”

At first this seems rude. However, if the two individuals are just friends engaging in light banter, we understand that no offense is meant. In fact, they are actively being polite to each other. This is called Negative Politeness.

To be polite we show respect to those we address. The first scenario demonstrates that we respect a person through using language that identifies them as being considered worthy of respect.

The second type of politeness is more useful to those we are socially intimate with. It demonstrates that we respect an individual through the way in which we use their own language, and willingness to treat them with a casualness that defines them as an equal.

What, though, does this mean for you? This answer is: Lots.

When you are meeting new people, potential friends, potential romantic partners, you are looking to develop a relationship that is on some level, intimate. This is why you have to use the second level of politeness.

Have you ever watched popular guys talking with people they’ve just met? There’s no messing around. They go straight in, handshake, pat on the back, whatever, launching straight into conversation like they’d known the new person for years. This forms bonds straight between the two of them. If you approach every new person with caution and distance then you may never cause a major social offense – but neither will you make close friends quickly. Caution and distance help you to develop cautious distant relationships. Acting friendly and forthcoming helps you develop friendly and forthcoming relationships.

Remember how I mentioned that the biggest jerk in the room seems to get the girl? Now you know why. There might be a difference between being a nice guy acting friendly with everyone, and just being a jerk and not caring who you crush into the dirt, but the difference is rarely obvious in social situations. If you don’t make friends with the pretty girl, then she’s just going to get dominated by the moron who knows all the moves to get into her pants.

Newsflash: Beautiful girls DO NOT NEED ANY MORE GROVELERS! They have plenty of them. They are used to the first level of politeness being the norm. You need the second level to get their attention. Remember what you’re trying to do here – develop an intimate relationship (strong friendship or romantic). You would never treat your mates as though they were better than you. As tempting as it may be, the same applies for lovely ladies – always stay as an equal, not treating them as a Goddess. Jerks succeed at this because they have no regard for the value of other people, so they never treat anyone as being valuable. You however, can do this because you have class.

OK, so, lets go over the main points.

• Politeness as treating others as equals NOT as superiors. If you act socially like someone is above you, they will treat you like you’re below them. This is a lose-lose situation. If you act as an equal, you will be considered and treated as one.
• Be a friend NOT an acquaintance. We gather up acquaintances all through our lives, and most of them are fairly replaceable. Nobody wants to put effort into keeping acquaintances, so don’t act like one.
• Be insulting NOT complementary. This is a bit tricky. When I say this I don’t mean directing unflattering comments about the shape of the head of the first person you meet. I mean two things – firstly, don’t be afraid of playful banter. Friendships thrive on being able to take a joke and give as good as they get. Secondly, don’t overdo the compliments. People will either get tired of your flattery (and possibly suspect you of being a stalker) or take it to heart and consider themselves way out of your league. Neither of these is good. At all.
• Be reckless NOT cautious. It’s always tempting to feel out a situation before you act. However, while you’re busy working out if you should ask the girl of your dreams out or not while tentatively trying to gather a signal from her as to whether you should, the girl of your dreams is loosing faith in the hope that you will ever ask her out, and moving on to stupid jerk guy. Just act, move in, say something, be noticed. Unless you do, you might as well be a part of the furniture.
• Be a Rock Star NOT a Groupie. Beautiful girls have enough Groupies swarming to ogle them. What you need to be is a rock star, confident, public, fun, chatty (but not blabbering).

So, you don’t have to stop being polite for social and romantic success. You just have to remember that politeness is more that following specific social rules and regulations. It’s a way of putting others at ease and showing them you respect them. And, for goodness sake, enjoying it.To recieve more amazing content like this every day Subscribe to our Newsletter for free Instantly. Every day you’ll recieve heaps of amazing content you won’t find anywhere else. Click here to Subscribe Now.

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When you think about yourself going on the journey to learn to start really getting good with women, what do you think it will be like? Hundreds and hundreds of women, a phone book full of numbers and a constant supply of sex? Finding the ‘one’ and getting married with kids? Do you see yourself living a successful life after dealing with problems in this area of life?

Next question: How much do you really believe that this is going to happen?

I have trouble imagining the future. Most of my life is lived day by day, minute by minute, with no plans whatsoever. I have some plans for the future, but these are hazy and none are solid. I might be going to med school. I might be doing my masters in psychology. I might be moving into a new house with a bunch of friends. This is the person I am at the moment.

When I think about what it would be like for myself after I have ‘made it’ and become massively successful with women, I think of myself sitting on the balcony in my apartment overlooking the sea, at an undetermined city as of yet, drinking my favourite drink and having my beautiful girlfriend come up behind me and start massaging me, asking if I want steak for breakfast. Hell yes I do bitch.

I think of how my business will be thriving and how that now my income is secure that I can spend time enjoying the things I like doing. I think about how wonderful it is that my girlfriend lets me loose on the streets to pick up more women so that we can both enjoy them. I think about how funny it is that I used to sit in my bed at 4 am after a night out writing about what my current sticking points are and what I could do to make it better, because that’s so far out of my reality that it seems like it’s a scene from someone else’s life.

How much do I believe this is going to be a reality? Honestly, it’s hard for me to really believe that will be me some day. I want to believe in it 100% but it’s an issues that I will need to deal with. What is the effect of this?

100% belief in the fact that you will be that man later in life will help you become that person. Having a vision helps you see the light at the end of the tunnel, so to speak. However, the reality is that this is something that is far in the future. It is a dream that isn’t 100% realised yet (if your dream has been realised, congratulations. I envy you). How do you turn your dreams into reality?

Firstly, realise that it will take time for your dreams to be realised. The deep centred personality change that you’re aiming for is something that will take a while. To cultivate a truly attractive personality takes time and effort. It takes experience and understanding to strip away the barriers that were limiting you from fully expressing yourself.

We live in a society that wants to have everything instantly. Fast internet, fast cars, fast profit, fast food. People want magic pills and instant results from everything. In this area of self improvement and becoming better with women, everyone wants a quick fix, an article that explains their problem, a few lines that they need to memorise to get the woman of their dreams. Anyone who sells a product that says, “This product will give you information that you will have to practice over and over to internalise it. This will take between a few months and a few years but you will be better in the end,” will probably not sell.

Learn to be patient.

After that, start to develop your skills bit by bit. Start approaching women, by just saying, “Hi, my name is ____”. Just learn to do that. It doesn’t matter if you’re getting numbers or lays. You’re learning the basic skills. Eventually, women will start opening up to you after you talk to them. Then learn to take the interaction further. Have 5 minute conversations. Then 10 minute conversations. Then learn how to take numbers. Step by step.

If you focus on the small things in your skill set, and have your larger goal in mind, you will get to the goal. Guaranteed. It has been shown over and over again that ALL types of guys can learn to do this. You are no exception.

Good luck, I’m out there doing this too.

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Isn’t it amazing how the most simple things can often bring us the most joy. I mean when the sun is shining, the kids are smiling and your having an amazing day just laying around in the park or on the beach, your job, car, house, possessions and everything you *think* brings you joy just seem to fade away into nonexistence. Joy is not something that is found, it is created. It is that strange mirage that always seems just out of reach when really it’s been beside you the entire time. Joy is something so incredibly simple to bring into your life its a wonder we aren’t all currently happy. Each and every day of my life I do 3 things that bring me happiness and balance to my life, and these are things that I think anyone can perform to bring a sense of wellness to their lives.

The first task is to do a bit of exercise. This can be anything from going for a 30 minute walk to a bike ride, a swim, going to the gym, essentially anything. Exercise releases endorphins into your brain which not only give you a natural energy boost and significant mental clarity, but also get you on a natural high and have you feeling very happy. You’ll find if you start exercising regularly you’ll love the endorphins and become addicted to the amazing health benefits they provide, which is great for your mental state and your body. Another thing many don’t know about is that of Vitamin D, the happiness vitamin. Vitamin D is a natural vitamin that is comes to the earth through sunlight, when you go outside for exercise in the sun you absorb Vitamin D from the sunlight and it in turn makes you happy, which is why on bleak rainy days everyone often feels down, this is because of the lack of vitamin D they are acquiring that day.

The second task is to do some work. It’s weird that we feel down if we don’t accomplish anything during the day, this need to work is entirely natural however, as it is part of our life journey to serving and helping out the greater good. Working doesn’t necessarily need to be something you dislike, many people find writing a blog entry or working on a book fun, others really want to program a great computer game, find your passion and work with it rather than against it. Work shouldn’t be defined by doing something you dislike but should be something that helps others in some way and hopefully helps the greater good and society as a whole. Doing something to serve and help others is a great way of not only improving the human race, but furthering your own development and giving yourself that amazing joy you can only get by giving.

Socializing is the last task on the list, getting into conversation with friends and family will improve your days so much. Socializing is one of our most basic needs, the need to feel accepted and be a part of society is huge and just talking with other people releases more good chemicals in your brain that help keep you sane and stable. This is why most of the people in the world who have breakdowns often have them due to lack of a social life or having a falling out in a relationship and not having that daily socializing with their partner anymore. Not only this but you can learn so many new amazing, mind opening things if you take the time to listen to what people have to say and learn from them. Remember talking works both ways and while you are improving your happiness and your life you are also helping to make them happier people and help them in their lives.

So there you have it, 3 tasks that if performed daily will keep you in balance and feeling more joyous and prosperous than ever before.

Have fun,

– Solace
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We all have perfect game. I know you are awesome and have so many amazing things that women would love about you. From the Little quirks you have to the grand ideas about the future of the world, the government and everyone, you are destined for great things if only you could express yourself. The only problem is, nobody can see this, because of a multitude of social barriers we all employ within ourselves that stop our true selves from coming out.

Social barriers are simply layers that we have built around ourselves to protect us from the outside world, they are barriers we put up when meeting new people which protect us from being emotionally hurt when talking to others. Introverted people aren’t actually introverts at all, but rather extroverts who have many social barriers inside their head that stop them from saying certain things. If you look into people’s thoughts, you’ll often find both introverts and extroverts think about the same amount of stuff, however introverts simply have more filters in their head that tell them “don’t say that, it’s stupid” or “you’ll get rejected if you tell her you like her” etc. Extroverts on the other hand don’t have these barriers, so they may say more stupid things from time to time, but on the whole they are generally more the life of the party because they talk so much that these stupid things just fade away in the conversation. No one really notices the bad things they say as they are strung among many good conversational topics or people simply forget about them.

Deep inside you know that you are a special person, you are different from everyone else and you have your story to tell, the problem is, with all these social barriers that are holding you back you just can’t explain to the world and especially women how amazing you really are. Only when you get drunk do you rack up the confidence to talk to them and by that time you can’t really control what comes out of your mouth, often offending and seeming like a loser to these people. This is definitely a problem that can be fixed, I’ve been there, and its taken me well over 3/4 years of solid talking practice to get to my current social self. I don’t just mean living a normal go to work, get home, sleep kind of life, but I’ve been going out to parties, social events and practicing my speaking and its still taken me that long to come out of my shell, so If I can do it, you can too.

One of the main reasons these barriers are in place is because of events that happened previously in our lives that stop us from doing things in the future. Maybe your parents scowled you every time you talked about something they thought was boring, or your friends thought you were a loser when you discussed camping in the wilderness. So now you feel pressured to shut up in fear of people disliking you. The reason why alcohol takes away these social barriers is because when you are drunk you aren’t thinking of the past, normally you may think something like “we’ll I’ve always been rejected when talking to women in the past, so I’m not going to open my mouth” while when you are drunk you don’t think of this and just keep talking. Also when your drunk your not thinking into the future, you don’t think “I’m never going to score a women of this beauty” and you just have a good time.You forget about what others think about you and are just completely in the moment having a fun time. The key now is to be able to do this without drinking.

So one of the first keys to getting over social barriers is to completely switch off your past and future thinking. This is something that often happens when you get into state after approaching about 4-5 groups of girls out clubbing and you start to feel that surge of energy rushing through your body. You sort of semi go into a drunken state but without the slurred words and stupidity coming out of your mouth and it really makes you very attractive to women. Start practicing going up to people and introducing yourself without a single thought, just try to make your mind a fuzz of static and don’t care what you say next, just say hi and slowly over time start getting into a conversation (anything goes, talk about your shoes, alligators or global warming if you wish). Practice going up to people (women aredefinitely the hardest) and just

The other reason they crop is because we are thinking so so much inside our head that we are drained from all the talking and can’t express ourselves verbally. It’s amazing how much goes on in your head when out talking to people “will they like me” “is my hair out of place” etc. Turning off these little voices could possibly be the best thing that happens to you, just turn them off completely and focus on the moment, focus on people around you and the conversations taking place and if your currently in a conversation focus 100% on that. Of course from time to time you can think “I should do x now” but never think self consciously, never think about yourself and/or what the other person thinks of you, because remember, they are thinking the exact same thing of themselves and honestly, nobody ever cares. Everyone is so selfish that they think “what does everyone think of me” When in fact nobody is thinking about anyone else so it just doesn’t matter.

So stop thinking about the past and the future, stop being self conscious and definitely thinking inside of your head. Just let go and be your best self, not the shallow, meek, shy version of yourself you usually present to strangers but the fun, happy, awesome self that you are around your best friends and family. Strangers feel exactly the same shyness and fear when meeting you so be the better man and show them how confident and amazing you really are. Pretend that every person you meet is a long lost friend and treat them in exactly the same way as you would if they were a long lost friend you just met again.

Have Fun,

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So you want to know why you just abused that guy in the car in front of you within a split second without logic coming in to play? Perhaps you want to know why you are attracted to certain men/women and not others? Or even why your dog does the crazy things he does? It all comes down to the three brain theory, explaining why we humans are the most evolved species on this planet yet still sometimes act like lizards and why we still make irrational decisions when we’re in love, then think they are completely logical.

The three brain theory is a theory created in order to realize why we do the things we do, even though they often seem completely illogical at times. The premise of the theory is that human brains have not simply evolved to the next level from our animal ancestors, but instead simply built more evolved brains on top of each other. The first brain is the physical brain, this is essentially the fight or flight response found in everything from ants to lizards to humans, basically your most basic core survival mechanisms: surviving and replicating. The second brain is the emotional brain, it is found in most mammals and allows us to emotionally connect to things and do more than simply having fight or flight responses. The emotional brain is found in everything from cats and dogs to other larger brained mammals such as cows and horses. Of course these brains are common and illogical, most of us hardly even know how they work and how they make us to stupid illogical things from time to time. Now the third brain is the brain that only humans on this planet completely have (apes and our close ancestors have very small versions) and is what really separates us from the animals, it is the logical brain. The logical brain is the most understood brain as it is often thought of as the most important and does most of our thinking. However what most people don’t know is that the other 2 brains are actually more powerful and a lot of the time make our decisions for us rather than the logical brain, then simply through the process of backwards rationalization they make us feel as if we had made a logical decision.

These three brains conflict in our daily lives, and by default, without a lot of effort put in controlling yourself, the most primitive brain always wins. This is the reason why we often fly off the hook yelling at people when we feel threatened without even thinking about it. It is also why we often make silly decisions chasing the love of our life by doing things which don’t make any logical sense but make a hell of a lot of sense to the emotional brain. I often equate them as having 3 different people inside your head telling you different things all the time, however they tell you things in vastly different ways. The emotional brain reports information back to you through your gut feeling, whether you feel happy, sad, anxious etc, it is your emotional brain telling you it think something is good or bad with your current situation. Your physical brain reports back to you through fear mainly, its duty is to keep you protected from harm so whenever it senses danger it freezes us up or tells us to run away. The physical brain is also what controls our sexual impulses and desires, and is why we so often get completely distracted when we see an attractive member of the opposite sex, thats our mating instinct kicking in from our physical brain.

You’ll also encounter events where it doesn’t make any logical sense to be afraid however your emotional and physical brains make you scared anyway, generally these are events where thousands of years ago when your physical and emotional brains started being created it would make sense to be afraid, but these days we have safety measures to stop you from harm. Such things include going parachuting, working at a construction site up very high or approaching a girl in a club. In the past being up high off the ground meant you had to cling on for dear life or you were going to die, these days with all our safety equipment this isn’t the case but our physical brain doesn’t realize this and tries to keep you alive by any means possible (generally by making you cling on for dear life).

So how does this help us? We’ll now realizing that we have 3 brains that are essentially totally different people living inside our heads we can learn to tame these brains. Unfortunately most people go about this in the wrong way. They don’t realize there are 3 brains and when their physical or emotional brain tells them to do something, they completely shut off their logical brain and simply follow its orders, thinking they are following logic when they really aren’t. This is why you often observe others doing the strangest things (hurling abuse at the television anyone?) and if you ever question them on it they get really defensive, then later on in the day look back on what they did and sometimes see it in a new light and see where they went wrong and how stupid they looked (when their logical brain comes back online). So the key to managing your other 2 brains is to realize that your logical brain often does switch off when certain events happen and you must switch it back on (by thinking rationally and taking into account everything everyone is telling you without defenses) and think about the situation that just happened.

Once you have turned it back on you can also begin to train your other brains to respond differently, stop your other brains from taking over when a situation occurs and think about what your doing then try to change it to doing something else. Like when I visit my parents I notice how often they get angry when watching the football and someone drops the ball or does something stupid, while I laugh at exactly the same event. Its not that I don’t think its bad play, I’ve just come to realize that its only a game and not worth getting angry over and have over time trained my emotional brain to think in the same way.

Of course you can’t train your brain overnight, it will take time, simply whenever an event occurs, realize its your emotional or physical brain taking over and stop it in your tracks, then think rationally (is it really worth me getting angry over this) and take steps to replace those bad emotions with better ones. Over time your emotional and physical brains will start behaving themselves just like naughty children now being given strict guidelines, and they will allow you to live a much happier and more enjoyable life.

Have fun,

– Solace

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Many years ago, there was an ancient Buddhist Monk who had a great way of looking at life, he would talk to someone and ask one very simple question which nobody could ever answer correctly, “who are you”. You see when told a question like this most say something like “I am solace”, “I am a writer”, “I am a Buddhist” etc. and every time someone would answer with one of these answers he would ask them again “no, who are YOU”. It generally takes some time but more often than not, the person will come to realize the true meaning of those words and reach a higher level of consciousness.

You see, you are not your job, your identity or your religion, you are your untainted spirited self. Everything that you think you are is what has been imposed on you by society, by the world and by everyone around you, you have been influenced to such a degree that you believe you are what others tell you. Of course this seems to be your own decision but little do you realize this decision was created from those surrounding you.

To finally come to the realization that you are not your habits, beliefs or virtues, frees you from the great amount of emotional turmoil many people carry around with them for their entire lives. People are so attached to the pain and joy that these attachments bring them that they begin to count them as part of themselves, and they start to become the things they associate with most often. Just like how when you hang around the same people for any amount of time, your friends, your coworkers, your boss, you tend to become just like them, so too do you become like whatever you identify yourself with or as. If you constantly tell people you are a writer that habit becomes more ingrained and you find it hard to disassociate with it (if you ever want to change careers) and thus you become stuck in more of a rut (which can sometimes be good but most of the time not changing is a bad thing).

When you realize that you are not what you surround yourself with and identify with you can start to become more Free, both emotionally and physically. You may come to realize that beliefs you previously held onto because you thought they were a part of you can be released. Old habits that don’t serve you can be lost and you can stop trying to be better than everyone else by having a higher up status or job and completely release yourself from your ego. Some things that people often drop when they realize they are not themselves include habits that don’t serve them that have simply been picked up from their parents such as arguing to defend your version of reality. Often the most open minded and happy to discuss different ideas people are those that realize they are not their attachments and often when you listen to other with a very open mind you’ll begin to learn and pick up ideas and interesting thoughts you’ve never come across before.

Furthermore building on what has been said by Steve Pavlina you are not your physical body, imagine life is a video game, you move around the world, you do things that raise and lower your state, you experience problems and you find solutions. When you navigate around a video game you of course realize that you are your character in the video game. How about taking on the perspective that you are not your real life character, your name is not what it is and you are simply a free form spirit controlling this physical body. Now you don’t have to be religious or particularly spiritual to experience this shift, just as you don’t have to be religious or spiritual to play a video game, just open your mind to it. Funnily enough many people often give themselves less freedom than a video game and instead choose (albeit unconsciously and influenced by the mass of society) to treat their lives like they are characters in a movie, they don’t get a choice to make, they just follow the movie script of life (go to school, go to uni, get a job, retire, die), and pay little thought to the alternate options they have out there, instead choosing to live a life on rails from start to finish.

So how does this help us? For one thing, when you realize that you are not your physical self, you can feel a sense of relief as you learn that everything that happens to you is merely effecting your physical body. If you are in a state of anger, realize that this is merely a state of fear that is causing you to be angry and you can step back, take a look at your physical self, look at those emotions but from a third perspective and realize what must be done to make them disappear (or more of them if it is a positive emotion you are invoking).

Not only this, but realizing we are not our attachments allows us to be far more open minded in life, you are free to sample and try different religions instead of subscribing to the one that was imposed upon you at birth. You can change careers without worry about being attached to your previous self and previous lifestyle, who said you have to be a wage-slave and you can’t be a rock-star? Society at large did, the same society that are also wage slaves and don’t want anyone else to get ahead. So get out there, be a rock-star do what you want to do and never say can’t, because all in all, you are exactly the same as everyone else and you can learn to be/play guitar/write just as well as anyone else possibly can, you just have to get out there and do it.

If you can’t quite see how living outside your physical body will help you out in life, I urge you to just try doing it for just 30 days. Feel what it is like to live without the attachments of life that hold you back, and see how much different your life is when you can sit back and relax when an emotional storm hits your body. Observe your emotions from the outside and see how they effect you, why they are there, and how they came about, then step back and look at how you can create less (or more) of these emotions in your life.

Have Fun,

– Solace
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Humans have been breeding since… well, since the time where our ancestors popped one of us out that could be classified as a human really. All of us are the by product of breeding. All of your ancestors were successful in reproducing. You carry genes that have been passed down from parent to child throughout the generations.

What does all this mean? Well, two of the most agreed upon goals of life for any organism is the goal to survive and the goal to replicate or reproduce. These two goals, biologically, are the core purpose of any organism. To continue on the species down our family lines and to spread our genes is a biological success.

Getting down to the basics, there is two ways a person determines if another person is a good person to mate with. Firstly, the person is preferably of the opposite sex (now of course this only explains male to female and vice versa attraction). The person has to have reproductive value for the other, namely, mating with the person will provide the chance of having a baby that has good genes (namely, genes that will help the child survive and replicate). Secondly, a person has to have good survival value. The person is healthy and has qualities about them that continue their survival and they provide their partner and offspring provisions so that they survive and replicate more.

In most cases, females have a higher reproductive value than we do. Females will always have a guy that wants to reproduce with them. Rarely will you see a female without a single guy that will desire them. Even ugly girls, if they went out and offered sex freely could get laid. Getting laid simply isn’t a hard thing for girls to do. Guys hand out sex on a platter to almost all women and therefore the reproductive value of most guys is well, nothing. Unless you have good genes that help your offspring survive and replicate more. I’ll get to this point later, after I explain survival value.

Males however have more survival value. As social creatures we band together in groups. It may sound cliche, but in almost all times in history, the men would go and provide for the family while the women would tend at home. Men are simply built more for hunting and physical work. The men would look after the women and children and thus provide survival value. Nowadays, women can survive on their own. Times have changed and the need to find a male to survive is gone. Also, in this day and age, men are becoming boys and have less and less survival AND replication value.

Now I’m painting a bleak view of the world and you better believe it. In terms of the game of sex, women obviously have the advantage over a vast majority of men. But there is hope. There is a select, small group of men that women like to breed with, men that they go crazy after. These men have the qualities that invoke deep emotions in the women, emotions that were developed through millions of years of evolution. The emotions are telling the women to reproduce with these men because the men display the qualities that genetically have been extremely successful in both survival and replication. Who are these men?

The alpha males. Alpha males are the leaders, the ones with authority and power over a social group and also the ones who have the most part in determining whether the group survives or dies. The alpha males are on the top of the social hierarchy and other males will usually rank themselves down (though this is not entirely conscious). To lead the group, the alpha male has to have important qualities to them. The ability to make decisions, gain trust, have at least respect and even admiration of the group, among other attributes are needed. So why are they so damn attractive to women?

Before the development of society, humans lived in tribes or small groups. The alpha males, being the leader would have the pick of the women to breed with. He would also be well looked after by his followers and this care would extend to his multiple partners and offspring. It would in fact be advantageous for a woman to attempt to breed with the alpha male due to the protection and extra care they and their offspring would gain from the venture. The children of the alpha males would also have qualities of their fathers and these would be the qualities that put him in the position in the first place. Being a child of the alpha, there would be increased chance for the child to become the alpha themselves and have the same opportunities to pass on the genes. The alpha males were ultimately attractive for their survival and replication value.

What about the beta males? Beta males get laid purely on survival value. That is, they have the capacity for looking after the female and their young, they have relatively good genes, and they are safe in that they don’t have as much choice in partners as the alpha males and thus would be more stable in their relationships (and looking after the young). Also, coupled with the fact that there are far more beta males than alpha males, and that the alphas might not want to bump uglies with all the women, statistically and out of necessity, women will still mate with betas. The woman still has the drive to reproduce and when the best is not available, they may settle for less.

So what would be the point of me giving you this bleak (if you’re not an alpha) sounding history lesson? Well, the good news is that as humans, we are intelligent creatures. Well, most of us are anyway, and if you’re reading this at the moment you most definitely have the amount of intelligence needed to understand what I’m going to tell you next.

We’re intelligent creatures and with the invention of language and society, a new era of sexual science had emerged. Our groups became too big and alphas became more dispersed. People could learn and pass on information. People passed on their ideas of attraction and seduction. Previously beta males could learn to become alphas through altering their behaviour, which was also an outcome of intelligence.

Even though our intelligence has developed tremendously in the last however many thousand years of evolution, our emotional brains, having been highly developed through millions of years of hard testing, haven’t changed much at all. This includes the base instincts in females to respond to alpha males and in particularly the qualities that an alpha male possesses. We are able to consciously study and alter behaviour as we wish. If we put in the hard work, we can change our behaviour to fit the blueprints of an alpha male. With verbal communication, we can convey information that denotes us as alpha males.

This is just the next step in our evolution. Women wear makeup, dye their hair, do their nails and have cosmetic surgery to accent and alter their physical attributes to highlight and maximise their attractive qualities. Fortunately, for us males, we only really need to learn to display certain attributes. As a final aside, it is important to remember that evolutionarily, there was no need for verbal game. Our non verbals are much more important than what we say and keeping this in mind will help you immensely through your journey.To recieve more amazing content like this every day Subscribe to our Newsletter for free Instantly. Every day you’ll recieve heaps of amazing content you won’t find anywhere else. Click here to Subscribe Now.

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You’ve probably heard of Silver Bullet Syndrome many times in your life, but never fully consciously realized the term. Maybe you’ve even bought a few silver bullets yourself, but never realized just what it is they were. Unfortunately Silver Bullet Syndrome is currently one of the biggest problems in society, wasting peoples time and money chasing imaginary promises.

So what is silver bullet syndrome? Essentially a silver bullet is a quick cure to your problems, a solution that fixes a problem you are having with little to no effort on your part and a minuscule amount of time, its the lazy persons way out of doing hard work. You’ve seen them in every field, from weight loss pills that promise you the fat will simply melt away with a minimum of effort, to dating books which claim they can get you laid with new women within 30 minutes or less, 100% of the time and you can learn it within a week. From push button businesses that spit out cash like an ATM machine, to electronic machines that make your muscles grow as you sleep.

Silver bullets are highly toxic, often infecting the customer with a bucket-load of marketing dribble, hyping them into buying the product ASAP then completely failing to deliver on the promises. These products sell the sizzle, not the steak, and most of the time the marketing is as transparent as a plastic bag. Not only this, but silver bullets are more and more becoming mainstream, we live in an age of microwave food and instant noodles, where everyone wants things now and isn’t prepared to put in the effort to attain them. This is creating a negative spiral in society where many, many people are never getting where they want to go. They are running around chasing all these silver bullets in the hope that they can be super fit, have millions of dollars or have all the girls they want in a fraction of the time it would take them normally. I hope you’ve realized by now that this does not work! There are many many case stories of people wasting their entire lives chasing these bullets instead of putting in the effort to achieve their goals (which they could have achieved far easier if they hadn’t been chasing these silver bullets around).

So the next step is to realize if you have been diagnosed with silver bullet syndrome and to stop giving into the cravings immediately. Don’t buy any more over-hyped products off those late night TV shows that promise the world in just 30 days. Stop wasting your money on ebooks or e-businesses that claim you can immediately start raking in money by just pressing a button, sitting back and watching the cash roll in, and especially don’t believe the ads telling you to buy diet pills that will make your fat just melt away. It’s time to take a shift in your mental processing and realize that these things are merely scams designed to take your money and run away, making the owners rich and leaving you with a false fantasy that will never be fulfilled.

Of course there are ways to achieve your goals and get the results you want, and they are simple, but not easy. The first step in wanting anything is to look around for real life case stories of people who have achieved the goal you desire, look at how much time, money and effort they put into it and what results they got. Now don’t just look at the best in that field, don’t look at the get rich quick stories and hope that that could be you, look at the average of all and figure out common things they did and how they managed to make it to that goal in that time-frame. Now the next step is to build a plan of action modelling these people, they’ve done it before so you can do it again, of course your not going to copy exactly what they did (reinventing DOS won’t you as rich as Bill Gates), but simply copy the ideas and steps they took to get to their goal.

Now that you’ve got a rough idea of your time-frame the first step is to learn, learn all about this field and what you need to do. But don’t go buying a bunch of over-hyped products, everything you need to succeed in any endevour in life is available free all over the Internet, and right here on letsinspire.net.

The final step is not to get caught up in paralysis by analysis, this is what happens to a lot of people where they start learning but never start applying, they believe they have to know absolutely everything about what they are going to do before starting, every nook and cranny and every quick shortcut. It doesn’t work this way, instead learn the very basics (should take you a few days at the most) for money you should learn about online marketing and creating products, or selling on eBay, or something really simple then start applying and expand from there. For fitness learn the basics of weight loss or bodybuilding (depending on whether you’d like to lose or gain weight) and for dating learn the basics of communication and just getting along and being comfortable around the opposite sex (as well as some routines and games you can play out clubbing if you desire). Now that you have learnt these basics start applying them immediately, before you learn anything more. Just get out there and starting doing what these free resources say, it may not be the best way to lose weight or earn money but its a start and better than doing nothing.

Now that you have started keep learning and applying everything you learn, or simply taking note of it if it is not applicable to your life at this point in time. Keep learning, applying, rinse and repeat and you’ll find your goal will manifest all by itself, you’ll feel better than ever before and start to realize just how simple it is to achieve things in life, all you need is a little bit of determination and drive and you’ll get there.

Have fun,

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It’s something not very often talked about and applies to all areas of everyone’s lives, from the moment you set foot in a store, to dating the cute stranger you met last weekend. Backwards rationalization to put it simply is whereupon you come to a logical conclusion in your brain based on your emotional state, essentially rationalizing emotional choices with logical reasoning.

If you’ve ever been in sales you’ve probably heard of backwards rationalization before, its an often used sales tactic to get a customer emotionally committed to buying an item even if logically they do not need it. This way when someone emotionally wants something you’ll often see them rationalizing with them self, thinking up reasons why they do need the item, and ignoring the reasons they don’t. On the other hand, if someone doesn’t emotionally like something even if they really need it they’ll often talk themselves out of buying it. Which is precisely why sales people exist in the world, not to help people make rational choices (as they can do that on their own by simply browsing) but to emotionally sway them so they logically convince themselves they need something.

This habit of backwards rationalization is also in full force in relationships. It’s been seen and evidenced hundreds of times that the reason why one person likes or stays with another has little to nothing to do with logic, even though it often appears as though it is. Its funny experiment that you take a girl and get her to date 2 different guys. One guy is naturally good with women and the other guy is a bit of a creep. Now they go into a restaurant to get something to eat and 2 key events occur, the guys both open the door for the girl and pull her chair out for her to be able to sit down, and they both tease and make jokes of the girl at the dinner table. Now what’s amazing is often after this date the girl will feel more attracted to the natural guy and repelled by the creepy weird guy. As such the girl backwards rationalizes this with logic, with the guy she’s attracted too she thinks of how sweet he is opening the door and pulling out her chair for her and completely ignores the teasing at the dinner table, however with the creepy guy she does the complete opposite, ignoring the door opening and remembering the teasing, claiming that is the reason why she dislikes this guy.

Of course this also applies to guys, and its a really peculiar facet of human intelligence. It is also the key to understanding relationships, and that what you logically do in a relationship has little to no bearing on the outcome, for if the other person emotionally adores you they are only going to think of the good and forget the bad, and vice versa.

So how does this help you out in life? We’ll once you become consciously aware of why you are doing certain things you can begin to resist people trying to emotionally manipulate you and realize that many decisions you are making are actually due to your emotional state rather than logic. In the short term most people generally do things based on their current emotional state and although this brings short term pleasure it can and will often harm you in the long run.
This isn’t to say don’t trust your emotions however, there are many times where you may chose to go with your intuition, say you get a bad feeling about someone, they rub you the wrong way or just feel like they are hiding something. Often this is your subconcious’s way of telling you it picks up on something they are hiding and feeding it back to you through your emotions and it should be duly noted. This is of prime importance in the business world where it has been witnessed many times of sneaky business men attempting to lure someone into a contract or spending money raising a business based around flawed business models (such as pyramid schemes) by giving them plenty of emotional pleasure with vivid images of huge mansions, luxury yachts and trips around the world, then letting the target know how terrible and painful it would be to work their current job instead of jumping aboard this new bandwagon, often times confusing the target and getting them to sign up to deals based on their emotional state rather than logical decision making.

Don’t go away feeling increased pressure to suppress your emotions today, for they will help you out many times in your life in certain situations. The key is to not simply run on emotions and realize that it’s best to think about a problem logically, then use your emotions (how do you feel about it) and make a decision based on both ways of thinking, which will (provided your not using a balanced amount of emotional and logical thinking) provide you with the correct answer at least 95% of the time.

Have Fun,

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