Lets Inspire

Why can we never get what we want? I mean it’s just sitting there in front of us, you can pretty much be anything you want… to be buff you go to the gym, to get a girlfriend you just talk to girls, to get money you just work hard (and maybe a bit smart). But for some reason you’d much rather just be watching TV while wafting down packet after packet of corn chips.

Why does this happen? Why is it that we can never see the straight path through the fog? Why do we get so confused over some things other people find so easy to do? It’s just 2 primal instincts we as humans stupidly do due to carrying around an emotional system that’s 50,000 years out of date.

The first is the need for everything NOW. The second is “silver bullet syndrome”, the be all and end all of human nature: feeling we all deserve something for nothing, a magic pill that will cure all our problems without any effort.

Why are we driven by these stupid emotions?

50,000 years ago it was a bad idea to wear ourselves out, for then if we suddenly got sprung on by a sneaky lion looking at us and seeing a giant pork chop we wouldn’t be able to defend ourselves. Thus the human body decided it would be a good idea to create resistance to expending lots of energy getting things done, so we don’t get eaten by lions as much.

This is exactly the reason why it’s so damn hard to just start talking to strangers and women you don’t know. 50,000 years ago if you were to randomly talk to women in the tribe, and the tribal leader didn’t like it, you die. He’ll probably bash you in the head with a rock until you resemble a bloody pulp, then feed you to the lions (sure makes the rejections these days seem pretty bland by comparison)
Your emotions were created 50,000 years ago to save you from lions and crazy cavemen, do you really want to trust them? Of course not!

These emotions are holding you back from your true awesome self man! Once you start Ignoring them and push yourself past them you will take on a whole new level of superiority (sounds cool eh?). No longer are you going to be the underdog taking crap from your friends for not being able to talk to women, and no longer will you be afraid of that scary scary bench-press (just imagine it’s a lion, will make it much easier to tame).

The Secret other Personal Development *Gurus* are Hiding:

There’s a scary secret in the personal development community, average people will probably never discover it, because if they do, half the *gurus* would be out of business:

“Most personal development teachers are trying to remove these bad emotions, help you get over them to lead a more successful life. But this honestly isn’t what’s needed; these emotions pretty much NEVER go away, yes NEVER! Often these personal development coaches haven’t even done what they are preaching themselves, and just hoping that by writing about it they can get over their fear and make a little money on the side.”

For gurus, this is cool, because they know that they can’t actually remove the emotions, and they also know that as long as they keep teaching how to in different ways, people will have a little success. Then they keep buying their books hoping to get more and more success, when they didn’t even need the motivation anyway.

Even 2 Years on I STILL feel fear when going to talk to that next woman, and I’ve talked to well over 600-700 women. This isn’t just me either, I’ve talked with some of the most successful pick up artists and IN THE WORLD and all these guys STILL feel anxiety when first approaching a girl they are interested in.

You DO NOT need to get rid of this fear, instead use it to fuel you to action, If you actually start to feel these bad emotions (and you will, believe me), it means you are growing and becoming a better more successful person, and we all want that.

The act of courage isn’t to not have fear, the biggest and best guys in every field have fear and horrible emotions going haywire when they do what they do. The difference between them and the common chode is that they push through this fear with sheer resolve and courage. With this kick ass level of courage they get stronger, faster, better with women and richer than ever.

I’ve gone through this pain myself, pushing myself to go to the gym, go and talk to that girl, do that extra little bit of business work even though every single emotion in my body is telling me to get the hell away from it and start doing more brain-dead activities, like watching TV.

It is incredibly hard in the beginning yes, but it does get easier! No the negative emotions don’t go away, they are going to stick around till you’re rolling in your grave. Them not going away would be horrible anyway, as everyone has the tendency to un-appreciate things that are easy to acquire, the gratification just isn’t there. Once you do what you really want to over and over and over (ad continuum) for at least 4 weeks you just develop the habit. The Habit is really really cool, because once you get it, you just go on autopilot and fly baby! It almost feels like the emotions don’t even matter anymore, because you just do it anyway.

So am I just talking crap or have I really done this myself?

I’ve been going to the gym for 2 years now to bulk up (I was quite a skinny guy 2 years ago, being 5’8” (173cm) and weighing just 110lb (50kg). I used to go to the gym about 3 times a week, sometimes 4, sometimes only 2 and really worked it around my (what I thought was hectic) schedule. I also crap all, but more than the average person. In that time I noticed I was growing slightly, I got a bit bigger, but overall in about 20 months I gained 26lb or 12KG (which is kind of cool, but still nowhere near good enough).

Fast forward to this year: I’m gym every day for an hour and eat more than ever (including a whole of 4 milkshakes a day…) I’ve now had 5 months of this consistent everyday effort of going even when I didn’t want to (and my body would have much rather me broken my arm then go to the gym). In those 4 months I gained another 14KG and put on a hell of a lot of muscle.

I know what you’re thinking: “Oh My God, 4 months of forcing yourself to go every single day! That’s like torture!” OH IT WAS! Nah kidding. In the beginning I thought exactly the same thing, that it would be like pushing a freight train up a hill. Not True! I noticed after just 1 month of going every single day my brain started to realize that I was dead serious, I wasn’t giving this up. So my brain helped me out, some days I would go “nup not going today” and my brain said back to me “oh yes you are bitch, you’re going to feel so much pain you can’t move!”, and my body would like auto-walk itself to the gym at which point I’d have to do the weights. (Ok maybe an exaggeration but it honestly did feel like autopilot mode).

It’s really really cool when this starts to happen because you don’t need to push yourself much anymore, you just go, you don’t even need to think about it, and you get the results you deserve.
So how does this apply to Women? So many guys fail with women simply because they are not applying themselves consistently. Talking to women once or twice a week is exactly the same as going to the gym once or twice a week, you can get somewhere (very very slowly) but the improvements will only be 10% of the rate you could be going at if only you started talking to people every day.

Thus to greatly accelerate any results you are having, Be Religiously Consistant! By going to the gym and going all out 2-3 days a week, then doing crap all for the other 4-5 days in the week (eating junk, sitting around on the couch eating cheezos) you are only driving yourself backwards. That extra effort you just put in on those gym days was just completely destroyed by being a complete sloth. Don’t do what the majority do because it’s easier, you’re only going to get what the majority of people get, an expensive gym membership with nothing to show for it.

Same goes for women. Don’t feel like talking to that cute girl on the train? Too bad! Do it anyway! In fact I’ll challenge you, whenever you talk to a girl on the train/bus/clubbing etc, email me, and I’ll match it, It’ll be like a little competition (perhaps I may give you a prize or two if you put in extra effort )

Until Next Time,

Have Fun!

– Solace

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