Most people tend to have the belief that the subconscious mind is simply a small additional tool to leverage when trying to attract a woman. They have the belief that if they can consciously learn and remember everything, they can find the one girl they want, woo her with all their new found skills, marry her and never have to be rejected… ever!
Hehe… yea… right….
Unfortunately (and Fortunately) the subconscious mind plays a much much larger role than you could ever imagine in every interaction you have with women. I’d go as far as saying 80 to 90% of attraction you create with women is based on your subconscious mind.
When I finally realized this everything changed, and so many things started to make sense.
This is why so many guru’s are going “it’s so easy, you just talk to the girl and she wants to sleep with you”, then newbies are going “oh cool! I don’t even need routines anymore” and getting blown out of set after set.
This is why so many guys appear to break all the rules of *the game* but are still constantly flooded with girls wanting to sleep with them.
This is why you’ll never improve your success with women by reading a lot of books, and if you don’t constantly apply what you learn over and over you’re never going to get good.
90% of all your thoughts, actions, intentions etc are unconscious. Your subconcious beliefs, rules and values will all shape every interaction you have with every girl.
You can’t try and be conscious of everything, it’s too overwhelming and you’d go crazy.
So how do we get around this problem? You take what works for others, and you practice it until it works for you!
The problem with the unconscious mind is all it does is form patterns of x leads to y leads to z, whether that is a good thing or not doesn’t matter, it just generalizes from your past. Which is why it’s so incredibly hard to go from geek to just average because all the patterns you are seeing usually go “Approach leads to cold shoulder leads to rejection leads to me feeling sad”.
That’s why 90% of guys in the community leave within 6 months, they never get over that hurdle of breaking through their minds patterns and give up. The point of routines now is to start giving you at least some success.
Because as much as some companies love to preach it, if you are a newbie you’re going to struggle getting better with women by just talking to them, because you’ll still be saying the stupid things you’ve always said which build no attraction at all.
Same goes with being advanced, you can’t keep doing the same thing over and over else you’re subconscious mind will get stuck in that rut, and you’ll never improve.The best way to keep learning is keep a journal or write up a report every time you get home from being out clubbing on what you did right and wrong, then work on these aspects of your game until they become unconscious and you don’t have to think about them.
The reason routines are so great as a crutch (not as your entire game plan after more than a year…) is because they give you the ability to get some success, and from that success your subconscious mind goes “whoa… hey sometimes talking to women does give results” and you feel less nervous and come across better, which gives more success and so on.
So with routines they may only get you into a fun conversation 10% of the time, but those 10% of times will add up and soon you’ll start seeing success which is where your brain goes “ok so if I approach it sometimes leads to happiness” and you start to have more fun just getting out there and doing it.
The fact that your subconscious mind creates 90% of your life is what a lot of people miss in pickup, they spend all their time working on that 10%, learning new lines, tips and techniques to be the master pickup artist, without actually getting out there and practicing.
By just practicing you are constantly bombarding your subconscious mind with new information, rather than just your conscious and you grow far far quicker than if you were to sit around reading pickup material all day.
Also rather than just working on theories and conscious things, try more subconscious boosting activities, things like affirmations to yourself that you are an awesome guy (I’ll post some of my favorites up in the next few days), visualizations of you succeeding and doing well etc.
These things all impact your subconscious in a huge way and because your subconscious can’t tell the difference between reality and something you imagined, you’ll soon start seeing your game take off in a big way.
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March 11th, 2009 at 7:21 pm
This is not bad advice, unlike a lot I have come across.